Challenges related to children’s behaviour occur from time to time. These are part of their growing up process, yet parents often find it challenging to deal with children’s misbehaviours. When children misbehave, parents feel compelled to correct them. This often involves ‘discipline’ which usually entails some form of punishment, scolding or nagging. Some parents can remain calm during such episodes, but more often not, parents become frustrated or angry.
Our earlier posts on Temper Tantrums and Jealousy amongst Children in the Family (Siblings) introduced the guidance approach, also known as positive guidance, to deal with children’s tantrums and jealousy. This approach moves away from the traditional notion of behaviour management and focuses on guiding children, rather than controlling them.
This topic will explain to parents why children misbehave and why the guidance approach may work when guiding children’s behaviours. Part I introduces the guidance approach and includes some pointers about managing misbehaviours.
As parents in the world of today are increasingly not in favour of the strict parenting style they experienced, it will be useful for them to learn about other methods. The guidance approach identifies a set of key strategies for guiding children’s behaviours without using punishment. Since its eventual objective is for children to behave in a considerate and acceptable way, the guidance approach is highly relevant in Asian societies where obedience is highly valued. In fact, it does much more, as it steers children to be responsible for their actions, including resolving problems and keeping themselves in check, even without adult supervision. After all, it is far more important that your child is motivated to do the right things and proactively regulate their own behaviours.
Strategies of the guidance approach will be discussed in Part II of the topic.
Porter, L. (2006). Children are people too: A parent’s guide to young children’s behaviour (4th ed.). Adelaide: East Street Publications.
Porter, L. (2016). Guiding Children’s Behaviour. In M. Ebbeck & M. Waniganayake (Eds.), Play in Early Childhood Education: Learning in Diverse Contexts (2nd ed., pp. 161-182). Sydney, NSW: Oxford University Press
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